Category: Personal

Personal posts from Leo Nelson

A better way to ask the “What do I want?” question

At the core of all human behavior, our needs are more or less similar. Positive experience is easy to handle. It’s negative experience that we all, by definition, struggle with. Therefore, what we get out of life is not determined by the good feelings we desire but by what bad feelings we’re willing and able to sustain to get us to those good feelings.

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How Bad Would Things Have to Get?

How bad would things have to get, for you to spend all of your money so your family could cram into a small, flimsy, rubber boat with 40 other people? Imagine you can’t swim, and nor can anyone else in your family. It’s night, you have no lights, and you must travel six miles across choppy seas. There is no captain. A man who has never even been on a boat will navigate. They tell you to sit on the dinghy’s inflated edge with your son on your lap. Your husband must stand, and you cannot see your brother near the back, because it’s so dark. How bad would things have to be, before you put your family in that boat? How bad would things have to get, before you actually felt lucky to get a spot on that boat?

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